Development of Sexuality

I spend a lot of time thinking about the development of sexuality, and find it extremely interesting. We were born licentious creatures and we will die the same, and I will never let anyone tell me that it's not okay.


As far as sexuality, there are so many facets to explore.
-Why has our society taken on the idea of sexuality that we have?
-Where did it come from?
-How has it developed?
-Why has it become what it has?

I think the vilification of sexual nature stems from Victorian England.
In an era of scientific obscurity, and change in social order due to modernization and industrialization; the idea of class became even more important, and upper and middle class girls were bred to be the most desirable version of themselves possible; which at the time, was a silent, demure, insubstantial little doll. They were uneducated, ignorant, and had very little social interactions outside their families. During this time in England, because of war and immigration, there were more women than men, and consequently, more women were ending up unmarried. In an age of laissez-faire capitalism there could be no greater failure for a woman. Unfortunately the problem for these women was not moral but economic.  Unmarried women sought work because they had no alternative and few were able to survive at the same social level to which they had been born. Eventually, should moral protocol give way to economic necessity, the alternative to factory work was prostitution, which even the respectable might be forced into. The better off began to embrace premarital chastity even more ardently than their superiors, because they now knew the dangers beneath them.  One false step and the family’s reputation was lost, so moral purity had an economic edge because of the market value of virginity.

One thing about the idea of social chastity that I find to extremely fascinating, is the idea of sexuality becoming so important. Creating a dialogue about it, good or bad, brought it to the forefront of people's minds, and gave it weight and consequence. Without this platform, sexuality could have developed within ourselves, and today just be viewed as a non-crucial part of human nature. I don't know for sure that it would have, because it seems to be a driving guide of our actions whether we acknowledge it or not, but it's an interesting thought.
I think it was Russell Brand who first compared this idea to the Jonas Brothers and their "promise rings". By making this element public, they are drawing more attention to their sexuality, under the guise of pureness. By telling us that they are virgins, they are therefore making us think about them having sex, and by us, I mean 14 year old girls. It's reverse psychology, they tell you that they don't have sex, which makes you think about them as sexual beings, but Disney can't get in trouble for it. If they just shut up and didn't say anything about sex at all, nobody would care, and their record sales would be cut in half.

Life Changes are a-brewin

Man...

Things are happening. Time just keeps moving forward, even if I'm not prepared for it, and even if I want to stop and catch my breath...

But I'm taking this as a challenge. I want truly, to be the best me I can be, and I am going to make a conscious effort to make sure that I become that. and take responsibility for myself, and know that I am truly the only person who is in control of me and the things I do and my reaction to the things that happen around me or to me. I can't control other people, but I can control how I react to them.

:)

So with that positive mindset I shall set forth on a journey to a better existence. I will work every day to get things done, and not procrastinate. I will find my passions and new and exciting things to exert my creative energy into. I will not spend so much of my valuable time and energy worrying about other people, especially about things that don't matter, like their perceptions or views. I will help people, and show people that I can be counted on and am not a flake. I will tell the people that I care about that I love them, and tell the people who are a negative influence on me to take a hike. I will be aware of what I am putting into my body, and start respecting myself and what I'm capable of. I will learn new things. I will seek out and research anything I am interested in learning about. I will read new books. I will enjoy nature and everything the world around me has to offer. I will watch less TV. I will enjoy alone time. I will enjoy my friends. I will get out of my head and into the world.

I make this promise to myself, and myself only. I will do it for me. because I deserve this of myself.